A few years ago, my good friend/colleague and I felt strongly compelled to spread the message about the necessity of making self-care a priority. We realized how unimportant self-care had become to the women we worked with, the women in our social circles, and even in our families. We recognized that today’s woman balances career, social life, spirituality, fitness, and nutrition, while also pouring into her family, friends, and community – rarely leaving time for self-care and personal wellness.

We came together and developed a two part “Tea Talk” called The Year of The Selfish Woman. The response to the talk was so awesome that a monthly meetup group was born. The meetup became a place where women could come together in a nonjudgmental, sacred space to learn, grow, and share. They were having a good time sharing tea, goodies and getting to the heart of why women are more energized, happy and powerful when taking an active role in daily “selfish” living. The women collaborated to help one another learn to balance multiple responsibilities while honing in on their truths and aligning with their own values.

For many of the women in the group, this was one of the few or only opportunities they had to truly spend quality time connecting with other women for a few hours a month. Even more importantly, many of the women admitted early on that this was not something they’d normally engage in because of guilt, fears and insecurities lingering from the past. During one of the sessions we focused specifically on sisterhood and the importance of accountability.

The discussion was both powerful and enlightening.

The sisters in the group confirmed their need and desire to be connected to likeminded women, to be able to share and empower others, while also being encouraged, supported and challenged to achieve goals, try new things, and ultimately live their best lives.

The indisputable message and affirmation resulting from the discussion was this: sisterhood is self-care.

Self-care is often thought of as a pedicure, a facial, a massage — something you just place a check mark next to on the to-do list.

Self-care is so much more than that.

As women, we are nurturers, encouragers and lovers by nature, and it is important to understand and accept that sometimes the nurturer needs to be nurtured and the encourager needs encouragement. Connecting with “sister-friends” is one of the most important acts of self-care that we can engage in, and it’s how we are able to give and get what we need from one another.